Sarah shares what she’s learned about a happy home life, by leaning into her marriage.
On TKL, we poke fun at our lives as moms and wives and we get away with it because at home things are typically solid. Now, that doesn’t mean that things are always sunshine and daisies, but after a decade of marriage here are some of the things that work for my relationship.
If you’ve read the book by Sheryl Sandberg, you know what I’m talking about. But the idea is that you need to “Lean In” to your marriage just like you would your career. After more than 10 years of being in a relationship, it can be tempting to focus on everything but your partner and that can so easily lead to distance down the road. Make time for each other every day, even if it’s only 5 minutes alone!
Get over yourself!
I get it – fights happen. But, in the minutes or hours after an argument don’t let the negativity fester. Say sorry for what you need to apologize for and give your spouse the chance to do the same. There’s no winner or loser when your marriage is at stake.
Date nights are so important in making the effort to connect with each other. If you can’t do a regular date night outside of the house, try making dinner together when the kids are in bed, or enjoying a nice bottle of wine together. Heck, even just putting on a movie (that’s not rated PG!) can be a great way to spend time together.
These may not solve all your marital issues but they have definitely helped us stay strong after two kids, career changes, moves and so much more. xo